OKCupid 3

To be clear, I  would never, ever contact someone with romantic intentions without full disclosure. Several of you have asked for this:
When contacting the girl mentioned a few moments ago, my first message was the following:

"

• Hi XXXXXXX,
  
  I'm in a bit of a unusual situation, but you seem like we might be a good match.
  My wife and I have been best friends since we were 5, we married 7 years ago. However, she recently discovered she is gay. It explains a whole lot of the challenges we've had in our relationship, but I have to admit, it totally rocked my world. That said, we intend to stay good friends and to fully coparent our 2 year old son together, but are both beginning to explore other relationships. We do NOT have and are not interested in an open marriage, we are looking for our next 'forever partners.' Reading through your profile, you seem like we might be compatible. I don't have a profile photo at the moment out of respect for The Socialistee's privacy - she has yet to come out to family and friends but I'm happy to email you a photo or post for a minute and then remove if we happen to be online at the same time if you like.
  
  If you're willing to explore whether or not we'd be a good match, please let me know. If not, no worries, but I'll admit that confirmation of that would be great.
  Take care,
  Smye"

  It was intended to be a 'try one just to have done it' which now feels admittedly crass.